It’s quite known that, if you don’t know where you and a guy stand, it’s probably because he’s not that into you and is just stringing you along. I’v been in this position and i kept telling myself i could make him love me but thinking back at it now, i want to slap my self for being such an idiot.
I have come to realize that if a guy wants to be with you, he’ll make sure you know it. If you feel uncertain about where you two stand, that’s no accident, you probably feel that way because it’s true– you both do not stand anywhere.
Here are 10 signs he’s stringing you along and i know because i experienced them all while hoping for a better tomorrow, suffice to say, it didn’t get better but ended in cheating and heartbreak.
1) HE WON’T TEXT FOR DAY OR EVEN WEEKS AND THEN HE’LL TEXT SOMETHING REALLY FLIRTY.
He’ll disappear from your life and phone for weeks, and then suddenly starts texting something really nice and flirty; talking about missing you a lot and you can’t turn him down. Believe me, he knows you cant turn him down. That’s why he gets to be lazy for weeks, and then get you back the second he feels like it.
2) HE’LL TEXT YOU A LOT, BUT NOT TO MAKE PLANS
He’ll text you pointless stories, or to vent about his life and work, or just to flirt, at all hours of the day. But he won’t get around to asking you out or making concrete plans. He just wants female attention—but he doesn’t want to put actual effort into being with you. Talk about the classic case of eating your cake and still having it!
3) HE CAN’T FIND TIME TO SEE YOU FOR WEEKS
He is somehow too busy to see you for a whole week or weeks. Sorry but, if a guy wants to see you, he makes time to even if that means staying up later than he wants or skipping something else.
4) HE DOESN’T WANT TO BE SEEN IN PUBLIC WITH YOU
You know he has attended several office parties, weddings and friend’s birthday parties, and has never brought you along to these events. Reason being that he wants to appear single, avoid being seen with you in public or just doesn’t want to introduce you to close friends and family. He probably tells you he’s tied up on those nights so you don’t bother him.
5) HE IS ALL OVER YOU WHEN YOU’RE TOGETHER–AND ALONE!
He barely makes time to see you but when he finally does, he’s all over you. Don’t take it as a compliment; he’s doing that because he knows he has no intention of seeing you again for a very long time, so he’s getting lots of feel while he can.
6) HE IS UNCOMFORTABLE AROUND YOUR FRIENDS AND WANTS NO PDA!
He is awkward around your friends, and flinches or seems uncomfortable when you touch him around them. He doesn’t want any for of PDA and is afraid if he acts too into you around your friends, you’ll read that as him wanting to be a big part of your life.
7) HE SAYS HE ISN’T INTO “LABELS”
Oh please! When a guy is into a woman, he wants to claim her and be the only one in her life so, he is into labels. But when a guy is not that into you and is just stringing you along, he says he is not into labels so that you can’t “label” the two of you as girlfriend/boyfriend or exclusive. He even avoids any topic related to that as much as possible.
8) HE SUDDENLY UPS HIS GAME WHEN THERE’S COMPETITION
When other men are giving you attention, he’s suddenly all over you, giving you attention and acting jealous. He’s worried that the woman he texts for an ego boost or hookup will be taken away from him. Just keep in mind that’s the only time because his attention goes away with every potential serious man you ignore.
9) IF YOU DON’T TEXT HIM, HE WON’T TEXT YOU
If you are honest with yourself, you know that if you didn’t reach out to him, he wouldn’t reach out to you.
10) HE JOKES ABOUT YOU LIKING OTHER GUYS
If he sees you looking at another guy he says, “Oooh. You like that guy don’t you?” and seems totally okay with that. In other words, he wants you to know that you’re free to do what you want, so that he is free to do what he wants.